These days, so many people engage in purely sexual relationships. If you’re clueless of what I’m talking about let me give you one scenario. Say you meet a boy, exchange smiles with him, and later on, numbers, you text or talk for a while. With a little flirtation here and there, you decide to meet again. Clearly, you two are attracted to each other. Since both of you are unattached and consenting adults and you try engaging in the act with the understanding that there’s nothing more than just that. Did it once, twice, thrice, and oh you almost forgot how to count because of the frequency of times you both did it. Sex for you is pure pleasure, pure fun regardless of the consequences. Before or after doing it, you find yourself enjoying each other’s company with your chitchats. This time, you become friends. Intimate friends minus the emotional attachment. A pretty good deal considering how stressful it really is being in a relationship when you know that all you really need is to get laid. It’s just sex anyway.
You see it everyday, literally and figuratively speaking. It has become so common that most people just regard it as an act that any normal person would do. For any normal relationship I would have to agree but of course that’s not really the case with having an FB(or what they call fuck buddy). By having someone just for sex you tend to objectify that person thereby regarding him or her as an object. This way it’s easier not to get emotionally tangled up in the situation. After all, there are no strings attached.
And just like in any other story, the plot thickens when one party realizes that he/she might be falling already for the “buddy”. Suddenly you’re seeing him/her in a new light. You find yourself liking this person not only for his/her exceptional skills in bed but for the many things that you have in common or his/her eccentricities that awed you. Of course I’m not saying this is the case with everybody but the thing is, since we’re humans, most if not all the time we get attached to things and more so with people. This buddy becomes both a want and a need.
Now, you want more sex because this way you get to see more of your buddy. In very rare cases, both people do fall for each other but that’s like one in a thousand? You’ve already sank into the bottom a very deep hole and what’s worse, you did not even know it until it hit you.
What a sensational story it would have made if both of you ended up together but that’s not the case here. No one knows except you. You can’t talk to your friends about it because they don’t even know you have a fuck buddy. Moreover, you know that you can’t talk or even “confess” to your buddy about it because you don’t want things to end. So what’s the next best thing to do? You look for distractions. You spend more time with your friends, bury yourself with work, or hook up with another person to forget whatever you’re feeling for that buddy of yours.
Sometimes you wonder how you got yourself into this mess. You also realize that no one is to blame but yourself. And no matter how many times you deny and say to yourself that you’ll be able to forget about that person, the truth is, you can’t because you know that you gave away so much already. The only thing left for you to do is to allow yourself to heal. You make up lots of excuses, lame ones but believable until one day your buddy just stops bugging you for sex. Who knows? Your buddy could have interpreted your excuses as a brush off or maybe he/she found another person to screw around with. I know it sucks big time but think about it, if you hadn’t done what you did, you’re probably in a bigger and more twisted mess right now. You and I both know that relationships like that don’t last but who knows? Maybe you’ll get lucky tomorrow then again maybe not...
I'm pretty sure you all agree with me on this...
--astrogurl
